A small conversation among three of us:-
Richard said to Eric:”you cannot eat more, you have eaten too much.”
Eric wanted to eat more, so he referred to me:”Mum…”
To me, I thought it was not a big deal. But I said to Eric:”Yeah, you cannot eat more, because daddy said so. You need to follow what daddy said since what daddy said is right.”
Eric did not say anything. In this way, I managed to establish Richard’s authority as the father.
I did not realize the importance of this issue before. After I replied to Eric as above subconsciously, I suddenly noticed how important it was to set up Richard’s authority as a father. Father has a very important role in a child’s growth. Only when Richard’s authority as the father established, will Eric have confidence in Richard and follow what Richard say. As the mother, I should follow Richard’s reasonable advice, and help set up his authority on this respect.
Here is a good article about this subject: http://blog.ci123.com/LUO323811/entry/805992