Cruises to Mexico

We did the trip to Mexico Ensenada during spring break, at the end of March.  So this is a very belated review.   We all had a lot of fun.  Cruise trip is highly recommended for families with youngsters.  On the ship kids have a lot of activities: mini golf, water play, camps, games, etc. etc.  Parents are able to completely relax on the ship, no need to worry about traffic, no need to think hard about what to cook, and the best part is you can have fun without taking the kids with you all the time.  There are camps where you can put your kids there.  All cool!

 

This is the cruise ship, Carnival Inspiration.

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Gege had a good time there.  Look at the sweet smile.

 

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Meimei likes to make faces in front of cameras. I love how cute she is!

 

 

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Gege loves meimei, and meimei loves gege.  They play well together 🙂

 

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Am I pretty?

According to the aesthetic standard of ordinary Chinese people, I am pretty, at least I was so when I was little.  One of the proofs is that, very often a random passer-by pointed at me out of a group of girls on the way to and fro school, and said, “Oh, look at that little girl.  She is so pretty.”

I never knew I am pretty though, although the above said proof.  One of the reasons was because my mom often scolded me by saying, “Don’t stare with your stupid big eyes.”  Due to my own character, I was very sensitive to my mom’s judgement.  I thus believed that I was very awkward; especially with my big eyes on my face, my expression might be very stupid.  When I grew up, whenever people admired my pretty, alert, penetrating, big eyes, I was very surprised and thought it was only their politeness.   I finally trusted their appraisal to be true when my dearest husband also liked my big eyes.

I don’t blame my mom.  Being a housewife from the small village of rural area in China, she didn’t take any school.  So the way she taught us was primitive, without any deliberate methods.  Actually most parents in our village taught their kids in this way.  That’s why most of the kids dropped out from elementary school or middle school.  Very few went to high school, not mentioning college.  So the case like my life path was very rare and exceptional considering my growth environment.  My parents have been very proud of me, because I jumped out of the rural area and went to big cities, and then went abroad.  My fellow villagers are  proud of me too because the world I saw was out of their imagination.  For them, some of the elders never went out of the rural area, and they even don’t know the earth is round.

I am lucky that I can explore the outer big world.  However, due to my primitive educational method, there have been lots and lots of inner struggles in my mind along the way when I was trying my best to adapter to the outer world. For example, my mom used to tell me that, “all our neighbors look down upon us, you have to study hard to be distinguished.” I followed her advice and studied hard and fulfilled my (or her) dream.  However, the success was based on distorted motivation.  I found myself end up caring too much about others’ opinions, and being very socially awkward.  Looking backward, I don’t even know what my mom’s theory “all our neighbors look down upon us” is based on.  Maybe she only wanted to motivate me.  My obedience to my mom helped my outward success, but also deteriorate my inner value.

Now that I am literate with one bachelor degree and three masters degrees under my belt, I should be responsible for myself, instead of complaining around.  I would like to cure every single wound inside.  I want to become a person with high self-esteem and lead a life with meaning.  Honestly speaking, I still don’t know how.  But at least, I have the courage to face up to my inner world, and write an article about it.   To me, this is a big step.

I am a mom of two lovely kids now.  I know the enormous influence of a mom upon their kids’ future lives, given myself as an example.  I understand the huge responsibility to educate my kids in the proper way.  Not a time I felt like treading on the thin ice,  and sometimes I got the feeling of helplessness.  I know myself well enough so when my kids perform short of my expectation, I would figure it out that, “even I myself is kinda messy inside, how can I impose high request on my kids?”  Secretly I am convicted that I shall elect example for my kids.

Self-improvement is a learning process.  Parenting can be learned too.  Thankfully, there are a lot of classic books on both subjects.   I am eager to devour them and apply them to my life.  Stay tuned!

09 | The little moment

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When:  07/10/14, Thursday.

Where: Chinese summer school.

Who:  Gege.

What:  Chinese summer school performance.

The kids sang and danced according to music.  I was surprised how many songs and dances they had learned in just several weeks.

Gege danced 3 times and did a nursery rhyme recitation.  I felt so proud of Gege because he performed confidently and did his best.

In the beginning when he just started the summer school, Gege was shy and didn’t talk much.  Now after several weeks, he made a huge progress.  He made a lot of friends.  He became cheerful and talkative.  He also learned a lot academically.  I felt so proud of him!

reflection

I got a serious diarrhea yesterday.  It took me one and a half day to completely get rid of the virus and be fully recovered.  There is nothing much to say about this sickness.  However, I was moved by my hubby’s good deeds.

Yesterday morning I struggled to drive to the office after sent Gege to school, hoping I would get better later.  As soon as I arrived at the office, I felt a sharp pain in the stomach.  Without turning on the PC, I went directly to the bathroom.  After vomiting and diarrhea for about 20 minutes, I called the hubby for suggestion.  He immediately decided to send me home.  On the way back home, I couldn’t even sit still but have to lay on the back seat.  That’s how sick I was.

As soon as we arrived home, I went to bed at once.  To avoid me to be dehydrated, Hubby immediately went out to buy pedialyte and drinks.  Before he went back to work, he put snacks beside the bed so I can fetch easily.  He even put the wireless phone on the bedside table so I could call him anytime.

I didn’t have any appetite to eat, so I skipped the noodle that hubby prepared for me as dinner.  In the midnight, I woke up with a severe headache.  The pain made me moaned a lot, which woken hubby.  I told him I want to have porridge.  Without a word, hubby got up and cooked me porridge.  How a wonderful hubby he is!

I tend to complain hubby sometimes because he spends too much time playing chess.  However, comparing all the good things he has done for me, his laziness isn’t something that I couldn’t put up with.  Besides, playing chess isn’t so bad as playing video games.  Next time when I have the intention to criticize him, I shall think twice of his goodness before talking.

 

Bible Reading | Deny the self

Galatians 2:20

 I am crucified with Christ; and it is no longer I who live, but it is Christ who lives in me; and the life which I now live in the flesh I live in faith, the faith of the Son of God, who loved me and gave Himself up for me.

Subjectively experience life

Our old man has been crucified with Jesus.  This is an objective fact.  When we became Christians, we admitted and accepted this fact.  However, when it comes to subjectively experiencing life, there is much more to it.  When Lord was crucified, He solved the problems of our old man.  Since our old man has many facet, there are likewise many aspects of dealings in our experience.  We have to deal with soul life, flesh, temper, self, and the breaking the natural constitution.

The subjective experience of dealing with self is the Holy Spirit.  If we have seen the fact that our old man has been crucified, then in our daily living, whenever we discover our expressing of our own ideas and opinions, we must let the Holy Spirit work the death of the cross upon our ideas and opinions to put them to death.

Deny the self and live by Christ in spirit

We should live in spirit.  Galatians 2:20 says, “It is no longer I.” “I” is the self; “I” is the soul, and soul consists of three parts: mind, emotion, and will.  “No longer I” means no longer mind, emotion, and will; will but “Christ who lives in me.”  Christ lives in me, in my spirit, and we have to learn to deny the self and live by Christ in spirit.

 Giving up our natural life

Our old man, our life of soul has been crucified with Christ. We now have to take the Lord as our life.  We take the Lord in our spirit as our life.  This doesn’t mean, however, we’ll have to give up the faculties of our soul, but the life of the soul.  We’ll keep the faculties of our soul to be used by Lord in spirit.

 

Do you trust professional?

Usually a  job position assumes certain authority to it in its service area.  And a person in that position is presumably qualified for that position in the eyes of its customers.  So they — the person in that position and the position — are regarded as one by customers.  The person becomes a person of authority, and the words from that person are then crowned some authority to the position, which makes a customer feel timid to ask for clarification if he/she is doubt of any words out of the person’s mouth.

That’s my logic of thinking.  However, two recent cases made me realize that a person in a position doesn’t equal to the authority of the position.

Case 1:

One morning I went to drop off an item at a courier service office.  The item was in its original retail box, which was brand new and sturdy.  I had printed out shipping label and attached it to the retail box.  Since I sold items on ebay, I was very familiar with shipping items.  This was what I always did in the past.

However, when I gave the item to the staff over the counter, she said I couldn’t use retail box, and I have to use their brown package box.  I was a little confused for a second, and then I thought maybe their policy changed and now it was one of the new requirements.  I  asked her if there was any additional charge.  She said no and then started to add a package box outside the retail box.  After she finished the repackaging, she said the total will be $30.  I assured her I have paid the postage and printed out the shipping label.  She replied there was no additional charge to the postage, and the money was for the packing box material.  What?  I couldn’t believe it.  My item was only worth $10, and the package box would cost me $30!! In disappointment, I said I didn’t want to post it.  She then agreed to tear off their package box.

Later that afternoon, I told hubby what had happened.  He couldn’t believe it because in the past retail box was accepted well.  He took the item to the same courier office again to try his luck.  This time, another staff was there.  That staff just checked the postage and shipping address, and accepted the item in its retail box without saying anything.

Which staff was right?  I don’t know.  But clearly, two staffs in the same position handle the same item differently.

 

Case 2:-

I bought 1 year supply of contact lens at a store.  The lady told me the total was $400.  I was surprised because the amount sounded very high.  I asked her to double confirm it was for 1-year supply.  She replied, “Yes.  It is correct amount.  Actually it is cheaper for you to buy 1-year supply at a time.  If you buy 3 -month supply a time, the unit price will be much higher.  You see, your total amount is less than $600.”  Whatever.  She sounded like she knew her stuff well.  I asked her one question, and she replied me four sentences.  I nodded and paid $400 quickly.

When it was time to pick up the contact lens, another lady was there.  She looked at the receipt and asked me if I bought for 1- year supply.  I replied yes.  She then frowned and said from the receipt I paid for 2 year supply, instead of 1 year.  Oh, so I paid double!